Last night I went to see Eclipse with my friends. I wore my Team Jacob pin and my friend said, "How can you be Team Jacob? Edward is her true love!" I didn't answer my friend because I couldn't think of something snappy fast enough. Later though, I thought, or I realized, I don't actually believe in true love in that way. I believe you can have a love that's true, but I don't think I buy the "one person/soul-mate" kind of true love.
I think I'm Team Jacob because I did fall in love with my best friend. I love our story. There are no fireworks and no magic looks, no fate and no aligned stars. Russ likes to tell people that before we got together he interviewed me. It's true, but he was interviewing me for a job that I eventually got as an RA at CMU. It was a very small staff, just three RAs and a hall director. Actually I didn't like Russ much that first year and I was much closer with our other teammate. Later though, we worked at the same summer camp, dated each other's friends and I got to know him a little bit better. After camp, and after ending those summer relationships, we just started hanging out more. We had dinner together, with other people, watched TV, played games, and did work. When Dave, our other teammate, left us we became even closer.
The way Russ tells the story, he knew that we were going to get married when one night, as I headed out with my friends I kissed him good-bye. I didn't think a darn thing of it; we were that close. Shoot, we'd been walking around holding hands for months, but I still just felt like we were just best friends. Later when Russ started to try and tell me about his deeper feelings for me, I didn't want to hear it. I was too afraid that I would lose my best friend. I told him that dating would just ruin everything between us and he said, "Fine, then we'll get married." Part of me thought he was crazy and part of me thought, "Of course we will, who else would I want to spend the rest of my life with?" Sure enough, two years later we were married.
It's a good story. And really, I like it just the way it is.
6 comments:
You left out the part about that horrible roommate you were getting that you just knew was going to be a pain in the arse :) LOLOL!!!
Ah yes.. the Russ n Tonia years BEFORE they were Russ n Tonia :)
Thanks for the trip down memory lane... my head STILL hurts from that darn loft of yours :)
I L*O*V*E* :) this.... what a great story, this so reminds me of a conversation I had years ago in high school with my best friend (the one person/soul mate part, not the rest of the story). The end chokes me up, as sensible as you are, I'm so glad Russ was sensible, passionate and creative at that moment he asked you to marry him!
Oh, and I haven't seen the latest movie yet, but I've converted to Team Jacob....though, I'd still like to live in the Cullen house/Leah's house 1/2 time in each :)
I love your story Tonia,but, I just can't believe that grown women are so taken with Twilight . . .
Barb, I'm at a loss to explain it. Always have been. No one I know who read it before me thought I would like it at all. It just doesn't seem like me. Apparently, rather than having hidden depths, I have hidden shallows :-)
This makes me giggle.
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